How to Overcome Fear
Nobody said that the business of life would be easy. Pressing in to 2014 brings about some inner trepidations. Deep seated fears about the things in life that are not controllable. Out of control things like our loved ones health, our future business success, life’s essential timings, and dare, I mention ‘change’.
A flurry of change happening all around can cause everyday champions to become unraveled, out of balance and fearful of the future.
Sing a little song of trust, O my heart! – L.B. Cowman
Dealing with the uncertainty of change in any form, while not giving into fear, is the key to a vibrant new year. Fear is the factor that keeps leaders stuck and unable to grow.
- Fear causes us to be narcissistic.
- Fear causes us to be negative.
- Fear causes us to be judgmental.
- Fear causes us to be sad.
- Fear causes us to own a victims mentality.
- Fear sucks. It really does.
For whatever reason fear seems to creep around every corner in life. Fear offers a constant battle knocking us down and forcing us to dust off and get back up. What things, in your life, causes you to fear? Can you relate to this struggle in any way?
Great news, you don’t have to let fear kick your butt. Here are a few ideas that can assist you in overcoming this natural response to change by cultivating essentials of a vibrant inner thought life. The truth is that dealing with fear can get ugly. This is why it is helpful to practice the elements of UGG. (Unify, Guard & Grow)
How To Overcome Fear and Build Faith
Unify – There are lots of reasons to seek unity among family, friends, co-workers and teams. Unity meaning understanding not necessarily agreeing. However, there are even more reasons to seek ‘inner’ unity. Inner unity happens when our actions in life are in-line with our values of life. What do you value and why? If you value it – are you living it? Is there tangible proof that you own that value? These are big inner questions but seeking unity will offer the first step towards peace of heart.
Guard Your Heart – “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” – Paul of Tarsus
Guarding your heart means being intentional about your input. Try this test, write down 10 negative things going on around you. Next, write 10 positive things. If the negative things come faster to your mind than the positive – you may need to adjust your inputs as Paul suggested.
Grow in Your Walk – Learning to bring all your worries and fears to God is a powerful way to cope with out of control situations. Do you have a special place and time to do this? Learning to pray is like learning to ride a bike. Normally, it seems hard at the beginning, but once you learn, it’s a skill gained for a lifetime.
Here are a few helpful hints to get you started. Create a space and add margin (time) to your life. While praying talk and listen…give God time to answer, if nothing else embrace a silent moment. If you find that practice meaningful, try adding Scripture reading and/or a spiritual devotional. Many times this is what prompts the necessary inner growth that devours fear.
Don’t let change and the ensuing fears destroy your inner strength. Shine for all the world to see – there is only one you. You matter.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson