4 Keys To Your Teen’s Heart
“Move over Dad I want to drive.”
Many questions emerge in a parent’s mind as the teenage years begin. Often parents witness a breakdown in family dynamics. Raising young adults in today’s environment is challenging.
I know this as two out of three of my children are now (Que the intense music please)…TEENAGERS.
No need to panic. There is hope that as you grow in your leadership stature you can also grow in your ability to connect with and influence your maturing adults.
Our teens desire to be led well.
This is why becoming intentional about growing our own leadership abilities can often make the difference between a happy home and those late night phone calls.
- Teenagers, like adults, want to be challenged in a good way. The worst thing we do as parents is lower the performance bar for our children’s teenage years. This is the time we should be showing and not telling them what a bright future looks like. Seek out examples of success and share them. Talk about the young adults who changed the world for better.
Our teenagers already have 100% of the potential needed to do great things.
- Teenagers, like adults, want to be understood. As parents, we need to be intentional about connecting. As leaders, we do this all the time in the workplace – we simply must carry over our ability to relate emotionally with others. If we take advantage of the teenage years to connect deeply with our children, it can usher in a powerful family synergy.
Our teenagers are wired for success.
- Teenagers, love their ___________, but still require boundaries. Can’t we say the same for ourselves? Reinforcing healthy boundaries and giving the opportunity to earn trust by increased responsibility is paramount. While “other” activities with friends become more important, as parents we must continue to be vigilant about the family environment. Now is the time to reinforce the roles of faith, family and friendships in their life.
Our teenagers can dream big dreams in predictable environments.
- Teenagers want to trust and be trusted. Deliver on your promises and expect the same from them. You will find that there is a certain joy about coming through for the ones you love. It feels great to finish a project ahead of schedule at work, doesn’t it? So apply that same energy to the projects you do together at home.
Our teenagers want to be involved in a larger story that matters.
Of course, there is more…Navigating through the teenage years is encouraging. Every day, when I take the necessary time and notice – I see my teens living with courage, stamina, faith, and wisdom. I can see that the only thing stopping the teenage years from becoming our best, is the ability to expand my leadership abilities and overcome a few stale, negative beliefs about this season.
I say we band together as parents, leaders and teenagers to create a better future. (Or hide the stinking keys.)